Dear Darling Daughter,
You know that I love you dearly and I am so proud of the things you are learning. You haven't started school yet, but you can already count to 20 and know your colors (except for Orange--that one's tricky). You're making great progress with your ABCs and you're even learning how to pedal your tricycle! But I am a little concerned for you. You see, I'm worried about all the things you're missing out on.
When I try to shower or get dressed in the morning, you wait right outside my door. But you're missing out. We have a house full of books to read, puzzles to put together, and toys to spark your imagination. Instead, you stand outside my door and wait. I appreciate your loyalty, but there is so much for you to experience if you would only step away from the door!
And I know I'm not the world's greatest cook, but when you refuse to eat anything but macaroni & cheese, pizza, or pink ice cream--you're missing out. There are so many flavors and textures out there to explore! You've only begun to scratch the surface. And who knows? One day God may call you to serve in a remote place that has never even heard of pizza. You'll be asked to try new foods that you've never had before. Why not start now?
When you cry as I drop you off for daycare--you're missing out. I would never leave you with someone I didn't trust. I know when I leave you at daycare, you are well fed, well cared for, and surrounded by friends. And you know that too, even if it's not right away. When I come to pick you up after work, you've had so much fun! So why waste the time you could be laughing and playing by crying about something you can't have?
Your toys are all very special to you, and I understand that. But when you have a meltdown over another child looking at your things--you're missing out. What fun is it to have all these toys if you don't have anyone to play with? A good friend will outlast your toys and stay with you into adulthood. But if you can't learn to let down your guard, it's going to be hard for anyone to get close. I won't always be there for you, and I don't want you to be alone.
I understand that some animals may be scary, and even dangerous, but when the sound of a baby chick fills your heart with fear--you're missing out. Our family heritage is steeped in agriculture. I want you to know what it's like to ride a horse, to collect eggs from a chicken, and to milk a cow. I want you to experience the pride of showing a goat at the fair and know the love of a pet. And I can't wait to take you to the zoo to see all the wondrous animals that God has created. If you could just be brave enough to take a look, I'm sure you would change your mind.
I know you love your family, and I know they really love you, but when you insist on sitting in my lap while we're visiting--you're missing out. You are too little to understand, but some of your family members have very little time left in this world. They love to see your smile and hear your stories. I want you to spend all the time with them you can--even if it means that you miss out on some time with me. I want you to have wonderful memories of them after they have left this earth. This is a special time for you and for them that I can't bring back. Please make the most of it!
Please understand that I love you very much. I have big hopes for you and I don't want you to miss out because you're afraid. Your comfort zone can be a dangerous place to stay. You may feel safe there, but there are so many experiences you will never have if you aren't willing to go out and try. It may seem silly to worry about this when you can't even tie your shoes yet, but I want to help you start a brave and adventurous pattern you can follow the rest of your life. Please never forget where you come from, but don't be afraid to venture out to explore new worlds.